Have you ever said something and at the very moment you feel the words leave your mouth you realize, “OH MAN! I shouldn’t have said that!” The feeling of embarrassment, anger, and surprise all at once hit you and then you’re beyond nervous towards what you might say next. Sometimes our speech doesn’t help us at all. I’m reminded of the Proverbs writer when he said that “There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death” (Pr. 16:25). How true this is! The times we want to say the right thing, we do the opposite. We wanted to say words of comfort or encouragement and instead it came out the wrong words at the wrong time. It’s hard to say the right words at the right time. It takes time and a lot of practice of life, maturity, and patience. It is possible. Solomon would say once more in Proverbs 25:11
“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”
But even with such a thought, James would say that the tongue “is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!” (James 3:5) So how do we do it? With grace 🙂 Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” (Col. 4:6)
Give compliments freely, smile to others often, say nice things when you feel like you shouldn’t say anything nice at all! If you know it’s going to be a negative conversation or lead to unnecessary words (meaning you REALLY don’t have to say it at all) then don’t say anything at all! Freedom of speech is a wonderful blessing in America, but that blessing is abused too often and we don’t even realize it! We must also realize the gift to even speak came from how God made us. Like anything else we do, however, too much of something could be bad in the long-run. “…A fool’s voice is known by his many words.” (Eccl. 5:3)
Watch what you say. Listen very carefully before you ever speak a word. Think before you speak. Know what you are saying and why exactly you are saying it. (Is what I am saying from my personal emotions or based on absolute facts?) How would God approach your situation? What would He say? How would He address the one(s) you need to talk to? I hope these thoughts help you in some way!